A Little Restoration Hardware Inspiration

Three years ago, my husband and I spent the night in Santa Barbara for my birthday. It was a hot early summer afternoon, and we wandered in to Restoration Hardware to enjoy the air conditioning and cushy seating for a few minutes. A few minutes turned into about an hour as we explored their “new” look that we hadn't seen yet. I fell in love with their Industrial pieces and stripped wood finishes, and now my husband covets their Barclay leather sofa. Since then, whenever we’re near our local RH, he wants to go in and “visit” his sofa. I must admit, it’s really comfortable.

Restoration Hardware “Barclay” sofa

The staff was, as always, very helpful and accommodating, answering all of our questions (how does the stripped finish on the dining room tables wear? Well, if you drip salad dressing, it will leave a stain). We left with a catalog, some paint samples, and dreams of a loft look in our suburban Mediterranean tract home.

The stripped finishes and  deconstructed upholstery are the coolest look I've seen in years. I love the weathered frames with the old nail holes, the burlap lining, and of course, the linen upholstery! We bought a linen sofa when we were impractical newlyweds, and the fabric was shot after six years. It was the only seating we had, so it did get a lot of use.

Restoration Hardware “Deconstructed Tufted Roll Armchair” in Belgian Linen

So, for the past three years, I've been thinking about how to update our 80’s era pine furniture, and other odds and ends that we've collected over the years- on a serious budget. Last year I repainted the public parts of the house – entry, living and dining rooms, kitchen, family room, loft and hallways, with Benjamin Moore’s Bleeker Beige, and the kitchen cupboards, an armoire and a bookshelf with “Linen”, a creamy off-white color that’s been discontinued. It’s absolutely true that the cheapest way to update anything is with a coat of paint.

Restoration Hardware French Library Console

The truth of the matter is, though, that Restoration Hardware is just out of my price range. So, I saved my pennies for a year and bought the Aiden console from World Market last spring, and I am really happy with it. In fact, in some ways I like it better. I like the look of the wheels, as well as their functionality, and I also like the lack of cross bars in the back. With everything I display on the console, the cross bars would be too busy.

The World Market console in my master bedroom

I love waking up to this every morning. It’s several of my prized possessions gathered together: my collection of  Anthropologie vases, a music box that I've had all my life, a favorite photo of my children in Hawaii, a couple of my husband’s old briefcases, a couple of photos my daughter took while she was on study abroad in Paris, a miniature book she made in a book-binding class, and my one-winged version of “Winged Victory”. No matter how cluttered the rest of the house may get, I try to keep this one spot just how I want it, in the hope that it will inspire the start to a perfect day. But even on imperfect days, it’s nice to open my eyes in the morning to a view that makes me smile.

Coming soon: Restoration Hardware Inspiration, part 2: Cabinet makeover

Why I dumped a bucket of ice water over my head today

Last night my sister-in-law and her husband, Judy Lynn and Ray Almond challenged me to dump a bucket of ice water over my head, and I accepted the challenge, willingly. Those who know me may be shocked. I guess I’m probably seen as a wimp by most people. Yes, I was hoping that today would be scorching hot so that the water would actually feel good, but even though it’s actually cool today I was still excited to do this. Why? Let me tell you about my other sister-in-law, Kay Carlile.

I’ve been married to Kay’s brother, Alan for 26 years. For the first 20 of those years Kay was a force to be reckoned with. Kay had the three E’s: energy, enthusiasm, and example.

She couldn’t stand to not be busy. When the work ran out she had to find more. Maybe that’s part of why she had seven children. Any time she came to visit I could give her some of my work to do, and she received it gladly. She was the no-moss-growing-on-me type. She made her own granola, and everything else.

Her enthusiasm for all the things she did inspired me to try some of those things out, too. She was the life of every party. My children loved to be around her and learn to play her games. Whenever we play one of her domino games, my kids all have to try to pronounce “chicken foot” with her Kentucky accent. That’s all part of our fun.

Her enthusiasm wasn’t just for fun and games; it extended to living the gospel of Jesus Christ in every way she could find. And that is one way in which she was an example. But the last legacy she left was the way she fought ALS, or Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, also known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease. It is a progressive neurodegenerative disease that causes victims to lose control of their muscles, which then atrophy. But even after being diagnosed, Kay didn’t seem to slow down.

It started in one foot, as “drop foot”. Five years ago, Kay and her husband, Al, were celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. My children and I drove up to Seattle to join the celebration. Kay wanted me to help her hang each of her children’s family portraits over the stairway in her entry, but she wanted new picture frames. So we ran all over town to get the right frames, Kay leading the way. I don’t know how she did it, except that that’s just the way she is. She kept it up longer than most people, and even after another 3 ½ years, she was still the life of the party at her granddaughter’s wedding reception. We had time to kill after the wedding luncheon, so she pulled out the games and we stayed in the banquet room all afternoon, having a great time.

The last time I saw her, she was in pain, and frustrated that she needed help just getting on to a toilet, or into the car. I’m sure there was much more, but she didn’t whine to me about it. In the end, she was blessed to slip away quickly. But most are not that fortunate.

According to the ALS Association, about 5,600 people are diagnosed in the US each year, and perhaps as many as 30,000 may have the disease at any given time. Compared to many other diseases, that’s a very small portion of the population. But to those who suffer, and their loved ones, it’s 30,000 Americans too many. And that’s where the Ice Bucket Challenge comes in. We need to raise awareness and money.

There are cures and treatments for cancer, but there’s not much out there for those with ALS. No cure, not even a test to diagnose it. It is diagnosed when everything else is ruled out. I believe in dignity, and telling someone it must be ALS because it isn’t anything else is no way to give someone a death sentence.

So, the Ice Bucket Challenge brings some fun to a disease that is no fun at all. I dumped the water over my head, then took a shower and dried off. I will send my money, but it’s not enough. The challenge has gone viral, and I hope the giving will too. Hopefully there are many out there who can afford to give hundreds of times more than the challenge asks. And hopefully even those who will never know anyone with this disease will be inspired to care enough to help. That’s what it will take, because drug companies can’t stay in business by dumping a billion dollars into a drug that has such a small market. Someone has to step up and fund the research, and this is my plea to that hero.

You can donate to the Walk to Defeat ALS and sponsor a member of Kay’s family here:

http://webwa.alsa.org/site/TR?team_id=309183&fr_id=10131&pg=team#teamRoster

or, go to the ALS Association website and donate there: http://www.alsa.org/

 Click on the red “Donate” tab on their home page.

TJ's Roasted Butternut Squash, Red Quinoa and Wheatberry Salad recipe

I have to admit that I had never been a Trader Joe's shopper. I always thought that it was a health food store, but when I went in, what I found was a lot of wine, dried fruit, and nuts. Nothing on my shopping list. I tried it out a couple times, but only for snacks and treats, and who needs to make a special stop just for a sugar hit? Not me! I may not truly eat healthy, but I like to tell myself that I try. I am allergic to sulfites, so trying out new brands and products means carefully reading product labels. Which means digging through my purse to find my glasses, and then carefully reading the label. And I found A LOT of sulfites in TJs food. So I continued to shop at my local Vons, where I knew where those nasty preservatives were hidden.

Chelsea was working for a Realtor during her Senior year of high school, and used to stop to pick up lunch on her way to work, frequently at Trader Joe's. When she told me I could get a deli salad for $3.99 I was skeptical, but because there is NO good, cheap food anywhere near my office, I was desperate and decided to give it a try. So one busy day, in the middle of tax season, I ventured in to my local TJs. The refrigerated case was full of a wide variety of good looking salads. I took the time to pull out my glasses, and read a few labels. I decided on their Roasted Butternut Squash, Red Quinoa and Wheatberry Salad. It turns out that this salad does contain sulfites, in the yellow currants, but they are easy to remove from the salad because each ingredient is in a separate little scoop.

I took the salad back to work, tossed it at my desk (after removing those troublesome little currants), and devoured it. Now I'm a convert to TJs. All it took was a recommendation that I trusted, and the faith to dive in wholeheartedly.  So, because I truly believe in my new discovery, I want to share what I've found with my friends. But what I'm going to share is a recipe of my version of this salad. You can add the currants if you like.

Trader Joe's Roasted Butternut Squash, Red Quinoa and Wheatberry Salad

10 minutes prep time, 30 minutes baking time                        Serves 4

3/4 lb cubed butternut squash
olive oil
Kosher salt and freshly ground pepper
cinnamon
1 red bell pepper, diced
1/2 red onion, diced
2 c prepared red quinoa
2 c prepared wheatberries*
8 oz baby spinach
1/2 c Craisins
1/2 c sliced almonds, toasted
3/4 c crumbled Feta cheese

Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Toss the butternut squash with 1 tablespoon olive oil, and a sprinkling of salt, pepper and cinnamon. Roast on a cookie sheet for about 20 minutes, until tender. Meanwhile, toss the red pepper and red onion with a little bit of olive oil and grill on a grill pan until lightly charred. Cool squash, red pepper and onions slightly before tossing with the remaining ingredients, and some vinaigrette.

Honey Sesame Vinaigrette

2 Tbsp Soy sauce
2 Tbsp rice vinegar
1 Tbsp honey
pinch garlic powder
1/4 tsp grated fresh ginger
1/2 tsp sesame oil
1/4 c canola oil

Whisk Soy sauce and vinegar together, then whisk in honey until it dissolves. Add garlic powder, ginger, and sesame oil and stir in. Whisk in canola oil until the vinaigrette is smooth. Store extra vinaigrette in the fridge, in a tightly sealed bottle. Shake well before using.

* I had to hunt a little for the wheatberries. TJs doesn't sell them, but I found them at my local Sprouts Market. They were pre-packaged, just over one pound was under $2, and they'll keep for about 6 months. To prepare them, I covered them with water and boiled for about 20 minutes. Make sure the pot doesn't boil dry, add water as necessary, or use a large enough pot to have extra water to start. I know from experience.


Enjoy!

Mission Farewell Tostadas

For Chelsea's mission farewell we decided to have Mexican food for dinner in honor of her call to Comayaguela, Honduras. And what is easier than salsa chicken in a crockpot? The only problem is that I never really liked the way I made it. Okay when someone else makes it, just not me. So I adapted, and here's what I came up with:

Chicken Tostadas

3 cloves minced garlic
2 tsp chili powder
1 tsp cumin
1 tsp salt
1 Tbsp lime juice
1 - 18 oz can diced tomatoes
1 Tbsp canola oil
1/2 c chopped white onion
1 whole chicken, skin removed, wing tips cut off, and as much fat removed as possible

Put garlic, chili powder, cumin, salt and lime juice in the bottom of a large crockpot and stir to combine. Stir in diced tomatoes and oil. Roll the chicken around in the mixture and spoon some inside the cavity. Cover and cook until tender. Cool, shred, removing bones.


Many years ago my friend Lisa brought us the most delicious rice we'd ever tasted. Being the great friend she is, she taught me how to make it. Why should anyone have to have bad Spanish rice when I'm willing to share the recipe? It's worth the effort, I promise.

Lisa's Rice

olive oil
1/2 c diced white onion
1 clove minced garlic
1 diced Roma tomato
1 c. white rice
2 c. chicken broth
1 tsp. chicken base (I use "Better than Bouillon" from Costco)
1 tsp Knorr tomato bouillon

heat olive oil in a skillet, add onion and saute til softened. Add garlic and tomato and continue sauteing until tomato softens, being careful not to over cook the garlic. Push the vegetables to one side of the pan, add more oil if necessary and add the rice. Brown lightly, then add the chicken broth, chicken base and tomato bouillon. Stir to dissolve the bouillons, bring to a boil, then reduce heat, cover and cook 17 to 20 minutes, until done.

Black Beans

olive oil
cumin
2 cloves minced garlic
8 oz V-8
1 can black beans, rinsed and drained
cilantro

Heat olive oil in a saute pan, then add cumin and garlic. Heat until fragrant. Stir in V-8 and beans. Heat through, sprinkle with chopped cilantro.

To serve the tostadas, put a flour tortilla in a 9 inch round foil take-out container, sprinkle with Mexican blend cheese, and heat in a 400 degree oven til cheese melts. Scoop rice, beans, shredded romaine lettuce and heated chicken on top. Sprinkle with additional condiments as desired: tomatoes, avocado or guacamole, more cheese, cilantro, pico de gallo, sour cream, salad dressing,  etc.

NOTE: One whole chicken makes enough for at least 10 or 12 people, the rice recipe serves about 8-10, and the beans will serve about 5.

Graduation Celebration!

With graduation coming up, it's time to start planning the celebrations! My idea of a party after the graduation, however, is only a dream because at TO the graduates board luxury liners (chartered buses) for Grad Night at Disneyland right after the ceremony. So Chelsea wants to go to El Torito Grill (in Sherman Oaks)Wednesday night, before graduation, so that Grandma and Grandpa can go with us. That seems like such a public celebration, so I'm planning a dinner at home this weekend to enjoy all of Chelsea's favorite foods and watch old family videos. 

Our menu will consist of:

Santa Maria grilled trip-tip
Mini-Macaroni-and-Cheese-Cups 
(recipe here: http://www.pincookie.com/mini-macaroni-and-cheese-cups/)
Boston Baked Beans
Caprese Salad with Balsamic Vinaigrette
Raspberry Lemonade
          AND
Salted Caramel Cupcakes
(recipe here: http://www.mybakingaddiction.com/salted-caramel-cupcakes/ )

Chelsea has always loved macaroni and cheese (Brandon and Heather, too) so when I saw these on Pinterest, I knew I had to make them for her. So far I have never made good mac and cheese from scratch. It's pretty pathetic that the best mac and cheese in the Hackney household comes from Kraft, or the frozen stuff from Trader Joe's. Even I love that! This is my last ditch effort.

For dessert we'll have her high school favorite: salted caramel cupcakes. I found a recipe for them on Pinterest, too. What would I do without Pinterest? The picture won't upload, so you'll have to look at my Pinterest entertaining board (http://pinterest.com/lhackney/entertaining/) or click on the link  I included (above) to see them. They look perfect!

I plan to decorate with a photo timeline banner. I'll use Heather's cute clothespins (from her Etsy shop: http://www.etsy.com/listing/152454141/striped-clothespin-magnets-with-mini?ref=shop_home_active ) to clip photos to a piece of twine, and hang it from the mantel in the family room. The flowers are made from vintage book pages of Shakespeare's sonnets, and Chelsea LOVES Shakespeare. It's a match made in heaven ;)  Since it's June, I don't have to worry about a fire in the fireplace!

I also want to use one of Heather's cake toppers (http://www.etsy.com/listing/121237719/mini-tassel-cake-topper?ref=shop_home_active ) on the cupcakes. I'm so lucky to have such a crafty daughter. Chelsea's favorite color is pink, so this one will be perfect. Luckily, the frosting on the cupcakes is vanilla, so it won't clash. Add a vase of pink peonies (saw them at Costco earlier this week), and I think I'm all set. I am not an "over-the-top" party mom, any more, at least. I guess I burned out doing the kids' birthday parties when they were little.

Next stop: Father's Day. Can't have Alan feeling unappreciated. Any ideas?

I'm "almost" an empty nester

My baby is graduating from high school, so we've had a lot of “lasts” this year: her last first day of school, her last Halloween costume (that I have to do anything about) her last dance costumes, permission slips, field trips and automated phone calls from the school. She took her last AP exam, so no more AP classes! The battery in her calculator died in the middle of her AP Calc exam. She didn't have a spare, and I didn't freak out. I guess she’ll be taking calculus again in college. I must have finally overcome the helicoptering mom syndrome. Better late than never.

She brought home her yearbook last week. Last time I have to shell out eighty dollars for one of those! Her friends from another school were looking at it and said that it had so much editorializing in it that it looked more like a textbook than a yearbook. I had totally forgotten that I paid for a Senior Tribute, until Chelsea asked me if I’d seen it. The high school has run out of opportunities to hit me up for ads and tributes. I’m not crying about that one.

Alan’s car was in the shop a few days ago, so he drove mine to work. On the way to pick him up from the shop I realized that I’d forgotten to grab the spare keys to her car. He was going to drop me off at the school so that I could get her car, but I decided to just work in the yard until she got home. It would probably have been the “last” time I picked her up after school. The “last time” was some un-momentous, already forgotten afternoon that’s already past. Okay by me.

Her last dance concert was a few weeks ago. She drove herself to CVS to get false eyelashes, and to all the rehearsals. She even took care of buying her own costume pieces. I remembered to buy her flowers, and, this time, I forced myself to NOT photograph her entire dances. I watched. I enjoyed. And I realized that most of the dances look a lot alike. Except that only a few of them feature my daughter, with the beautifully arched feet, graceful hands, and really high kicks. I’ll never miss sitting in the bleachers for three hours in a gym that feels like a sauna. And I won’t have to miss Chelsea dancing, because she does it quite regularly in my kitchen while I’m making dinner. Well, I won’t miss it until September.

She’s had her last prom, last group project, and last birthday party. We still have the Senior Showcase (in which she’ll be singing), Senior Awards, and of course graduation and grad night. Then she’ll have her last day of work, because her boss has already replaced her (with a full-time, college graduate!), last summer vacation (unemployed, most likely) and, at some point, her last night in this house. The only place she’s ever lived.

Then, Alan and I will make the long drive to drop her off, kiss her goodbye, and make the even longer drive home. To our … not empty nest. Brandon will be here for at least two more years while he finishes college locally.

Why do I seem okay with all of this? Maybe it’s because she “school-choiced” to another high school. All those people I spent so much time with throughout my kids early years, the one’s I thought we were close to, that we’d keep in touch with…. I only see by accident at the grocery store. I haven’t seen many familiar faces in four years, and won’t see many at her graduation. There isn't anyone from her high school that I’ll miss. She might, but the friends she made as a teen were not her Brownie or soccer buddies. We never carpooled, I've never even met most of their parents. So I won’t be saying fond goodbye’s that night.

The only one I’ll be missing is my baby. But one has gone before her, and I know that I can call, text, email, Facebook and Skype. Multiple times a day. And as long as I’m paying her cell phone bill I can also have “Find My Friends”. Just a warning, honey-bunny.

Can I borrow your shoes?

Years ago a new neighbor moved in and complained to her friend that she was miserable because she hadn’t had a manicure since her move. Was she suffering? Absolutely not, but her perception was that she was going without something that she was used to, so she was unhappy. When my husband later asked why I had avoided forming a friendship with her, I said that she was a drama queen, and that he would not like her effect on me, should I start spending time with her. He was used to a rather “low maintenance” wife, and we both liked me that way.

Athletes push through pain to achieve greater results and say, “no pain, no gain”. Women know that labor pain is the price paid to bring new life into the world, and those who choose to give birth find it a price they are willing to pay. The hunger pains associated with missed meals are generally considered very unpleasant, but some religions “fast” to feel closer to God, a choice that sets aside discomfort to achieve a higher purpose. These people would probably not describe their experience as suffering.

American’s have watched from their televisions as celebrities such as Iman, Angelina Jolie, and Oprah Winfrey as well as churches, charities and even American Idol have brought aid and movie cameras to refugee camps and poor villages around the world. Movies, tv shows and commercials have shown us the bloated bellies and insect bitten bodies of children who look years younger than their actual age due to disease and malnutrition. But the truth is, as long as corrupt leaders steal the money that is sent for their personal use, or to fund their military, we’re “shoveling water with a pitchfork” to quote my favorite Peanuts cartoon.

Worldhunger.org reports that out of 925 million hungry people in the world in 2010, 239 million were in Sub-Saharan Africa. They claim that the three factors leading to increased numbers of hungry people since 1997 are “1) neglect of agriculture relevant to very poor people by governments and international agencies; 2) the current worldwide economic crisis, and 3) the significant increase of food prices in the last several years which has been devastating to those with only a few dollars a day to spend.” (2012 World Hunger and Poverty Facts and Statistics)

In June of 2011, the United Nations Office for the Coordination of Humanitarian Affairs (OCHA) reported that an estimated 10 million people from parts of Ethiopia, Somalia, Kenya, and Uganda were suffering their worst drought in 60 years (UN News Centre, 28 June 2011, un.org) This, they say, has caused a severe food crisis, and increased the number of refugees to Kenya and Ethiopia to an average of 15,000 per month. They reported that almost half of the children arriving from southern Somalia were malnourished. The UN requested $525 million in aid for Kenya alone, but by the date of their report had received only about half that amount.

Droughts, famine, disease, poverty, lack of education, social customs and political corruption have all had long term and widespread effects on the region. The OCHA report stated that, “While conflict has been a fact of life for them for years, it is the drought that has taken them to a breaking point.”

Is the suffering less when one is surrounded by others in the same situation? Those who have lost a loved one often find comfort when someone who has suffered a similar loss shares their experience. Somehow, the similarity of the circumstance allows the burden to be eased by someone who understands. Does this phenomenon carry over to victims of starvation? If your older sibling already died, and another child lies beside you with a similar story to tell, does the situation become normal? Spinning the situation around, is it possible for someone with enough food, and living in a safe American suburb to suffer? Does the pain seem worse when surrounded by those who don’t appear to share the same circumstances?

"The word ‘starve’ is so emotionally loaded," said Dr. Perry G. Fine, vice president of medical affairs at Arlington, Virginia’s National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization. "People equate that with the hunger pains they feel or the thirst they feel after a long, hot day of hiking.” After 25 years in the field, Dr. Fine says that his patients have told him “that when they stop eating and drinking, there’s nothing unpleasant about it — in fact it can be quite blissful and euphoric." (Source: redOrbit (http://s.tt/160xM)). Granted, there is a huge difference between an end-stage cancer patient who chooses to stop eating and a child who has been malnourished their entire life and faces death by starvation, not by choice but by circumstance.

A couple of years ago I had a pain in my side for about a week before I finally went to the Emergency Room. After looking online, I thought that the only explanation for the mild discomfort I felt was appendicitis. The ER personnel stated that I was in much too good a mood to have appendicitis. I told them that I never felt labor pains with any of my three eight-plus pound babies until about an hour before giving birth, and that I thought I had a fairly high threshold for pain. It wasn’t until an MRI confirmed my suspicions that they rushed me to the OR for an emergency appendectomy. Circumstances that others typically find extremely painful have seemed quite bearable to me. Perhaps I’m wired differently, but I believe that pain and suffering are not absolutes, that perceptions can and do vary.

Teens today love to use the term “Drama Queen”, but who are we to judge how another perceives pain, whether physical, emotional, spiritual or social? So, to my daughter’s Facebook friend who says that a teen in the suburbs can’t possibly suffer, I say, just because you don’t understand or feel the same way, doesn’t mean that there is no pain. And sometimes, a lack of complaint doesn’t mean that aid is not needed, desired or deserved. The most common experience of mankind is that we all feel pain. What a better place this would be if we did not inflict it on one another.